Perfectly Practical #10 - Just Say No
We all do it.
Take on tasks that we either have no time or inclination to deal with; surely, it's not just me that gets caught up in this. Lots of times we are guilted into saying yes when we really need to be saying no.
We tell our husband no - our children no. So why can't we tell our friends/co-workers/club members no?
Too many of us think that it is rude to tell someone no when they ask a favor of us.
Ladies, I am living proof that the world will not end if you just say no to a request.
We all have ten gillion things on our plates between taking care of a household, working, ferrying children to various activities, running errands, doing whatever the hubby needs done, church functions, philanthropic endeavors, and our own activities.
Sometimes, for our own sanity, we need to learn to say no.
Is anyone else like me and sometimes you just say "maybe" or "I'll get back to you on that" to something in hopes that it will go away? Oh yeah, that one has bitten me in the bum more than once.
In my mind if I am non-committal then I didn't mean yes; whereas, to the asker, my non-commitment doesn't mean no and herein lies the problem. If I would have said no from the start, then I would not have been put out with the one who asked and they would not have been put out with me.
It is far more rude to string someone along than to just say no from the beginning.
I am not standing on some high and mighty ground here my friends, I had (and still have) a hard time saying no. One of my dear friends told me to stand in front of the mirror and practice saying no until I felt comfortable; it is silly, but helps.
You cannot possibly do everything to your best if you are spread terribly thin and occasionally that one extra item will tip the balance into crazyville - or at least will for me.
Now, in no way am I encouraging a total cessation of activities or favors, just consider them in moderation to be perfectly practical.
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